Comparison - continuation

​Comparison - a notion that one has to actively work against challenging our minds from where they can easily go. 

Have you ever scrolled on Instagram, looked at a picture of someone and thought wow I want what they have. Or better yet, have you spoken to a friend who appears to ‘have it all’ and thought to yourself, why is their life perfect while mine is in shambles? If you answered no, you are in the minority. Everyone, at least once in their lives has compared their life to another, close to us or maybe to someone we don’t even know. 

When we compare, we are left with a feeling of failure and emptiness that is hard to shake.  

Last year I wrote a passage about comparison, comparing our life to that of another. And after a full year, I still find myself being impacted by this notion. Maybe even more than I once was. 

On the outside, one may believe that I have it all. An amazing family, great job, the best of friends and boyfriend, and so on. And while all are true, these are not all of the aspects that make up my life. What I mean by this is that I still have bad days, I have things about myself that make me feel embarrassed, and I most certainly have things that I would like to change about my life. If someone were to compare their life to a small aspect of mine that they deem perfect, then they would be missing the totality of what my life actually is. 

But even as I continuously tell myself this, I STILL find myself comparing from time to time, pinpointing aspects of another's life and wishing that I had the things that I yet have. It is too easy to glorify when we are only looking at a fraction of another’s life. And to that I say, what a waste of time. 

We are individuals each on our own journey for different reasons. It may not always be easy, and there will be times when it feels like people have ‘so much more’ than you. But that is when It is essential to look within and focus on you. 

Outside of work, outside of the noise, find what makes you truly happy. The more we focus on ourselves and what enlightens us, the less time we will have to ponder about what we are lacking when compared to another’s life. 

And to say that having this mindset is challenging would be an understatement. But I can promise you that working towards finding happiness within is an investment that you will not regret.